Dating and physical chemistry
Well yes, those are non-negotiables, but it’s a little more complicated than that.If you are looking for someone to spend your life with, you damn well need to enjoy their company day after day. In this case, I’d still give the guy a little longer than a month to make sure – it doesn’t sound like you think he’s awful, just ok.While chemistry has been described as "that romantic spark between [two people]", the term "spark" in the context of relationships is as vague as "chemistry", and therefore is not particularly useful in a definition. D., suggests that "not everyone experiences chemistry".
Chemistry allows us to sweep under the rug the fact that he’s a selfish asshole or that she’s a crazy bitch…and later justify this behavior and fight to stay in broken relationships that make us unhappy.One can also uncontrollably smile whenever thinking about the other person.There is some debate over whether one can artificially create chemistry if they are "not initially feeling it".Other physical symptoms include "blood pressure go[ing] up a little, the skin...flush[ing], the face and ears...turn[ing] red and...[a] feeling of weakness in the knees".One can feel a sense of obsession over the other person, longing for "the day [when they return] to that person".
This is why I have long advocated putting compatibility up on the same pedestal as chemistry, and perhaps elevate it even higher.