Dating chinese women culture
In the West guys will typically try to ‘one up’ you by talking shit when you’re with girls – it’s straight up school yard game.
At other times they’ll just claim that the girl is their girlfriend, even though it isn’t.
Negs don’t work very well in Asia because the way people form rapport, and relate through humour, is slightly different.
In the West, when you ‘neg’ a girl you are directly stating what your value is by showing willingness to break rapport.
Most of my experience is in China, unraveling the mystery of Chinese women, and I’ve found that there are a lot of differences between dating in China as compared to the West.
In particular, there are seven key differences that stand out over and above the rest.
Negs are a compliment that are supposed to make the girl feel you’re not enamoured of her and not the same as other guys, after using a neg a girl should feel like you are not chasing her but merely making conversation while being subtly rude or even teasing her with your comments – you are actively showing disinterest.
A good example of this is telling a woman you love her shoes, then mentioning that your 11 year old niece bought a pair just yesterday.
The meaning of a kiss can be quite different in Asia than it is in the West.
I’ve found that with western girls you just need to agree and make them horny and then it all goes down quite easily, whereas with Asian girls they typically need a lot more deniability then Western girls do, plus they also need to feel like they aren’t responsible for having sex.
So the key here is giving them plausible deniability, at all times ensure that they can claim that they didn’t know they were going to have sex.
Unless you have been under a rock for the last ten years, you’ve undoubtedly heard of “pickup” and “pickup artists”.
In the West, pickup has introduced and encouraged the use of “negs”.